1Samuel 25:2-35, “32 Then David said to Abigail: “Blessed is the LORD God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me! 33 And blessed is your advice and blessed are you, because you have kept me this day from coming to bloodshed and from avenging myself with my own hand”
One of the greatest asset a woman wants in a relationship is COMMITMENT, a thing that haunts many men. Someone made a joke saying, “he saw a man standing there like he came out of a bad dream because he said the woman he cared for wanted something he couldn’t give her, COMMITMENT”. I know for sure that there are men who have chosen loneliness and called it freedom just because commitment wasn’t part of their vocabulary. As a man, I know we are quick to making hasty decisions, something that gratifies quickly. Something more of now, then comes the woman who sees far beyond now. She evaluates, equates, weighs things to make better judgment on anything be it on spending, building a home, raising children, on the job. She is not just looking at today, she is looking at down the road. How will decisions made today affect her and her family in the near future. She is looking for stability and security.
Husbands would agree with me about this because we know that had it not been for our wives who encouraged and advised us is some areas, we would have made decisions which would have made mess of things. God made men help meet (women) because men couldn’t handle it themselves as one preacher puts it. Men loose things, women find them. Women want commitment then they step in committed to make it better by helping their partners make better judgments. When men get angry, at times it becomes easier for them to make poor judgments and that is the case with David. David was in the wilderness and he encountered Nabal a very wicked man married to a beautiful woman, a woman of understanding Abigail. David had protected Nabal’s servants and even protected Nabal’s wealth not losing a thing. In time of need, David sent some of his men to Nabal for a favor. Nabal spoke harshly to David’s men, vs. “10 Then Nabal answered …, “Who is David, and who is the son of Jesse? There are many servants nowadays who break away each one from his master. 11 Shall I then take my bread and my water and my meat that I have killed for my shearers, and give it to men when I do not know where they are from?”. Upon getting this message, David became angry and told his men to gird themselves with swords. Not only was David coming to destroy Nabal, he was coming to destroy the whole family, plus the servants and the wealth. Imagine Abigail suffering all these because of one man’s hasty decision.
Nabal’s servants knew of what would befall them and instead of going to plead with Nabal, they turned to Nabal’s wife Abigail, narrated how David had been kind to them and how Nabal treated David’s servants. Nabal’s servants knew what their fate would be if nothing happened. They told Abigail, vs. “17 Now therefore, know and consider what you will do, for harm is determined against our master and against all his household. For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him.” The servants knew Abigail pretty well to know that she will make a better judgment in a situation that seemed impossible. She had a way of turning curses into blessings. If Nabal only knew the kind of wife he had, if David only knew the woman about to come his way, if we only knew the women God has put in our lives, we would thank God for them even more. They were our first supporters and committed to making our relationships better by helping us men make better decisions. God brought them for a reason and we are yet to learn more. To continue…Blessings Ev