Ephesians 4:32, the Bible says, “Be compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (NIV1984).
When should we forgive and finally let go? How should we do it? Does the offender even need to know that you forgave him? Whenever these questions start to haunt you, it may be an indication that the Lord is stirring up a spirit of forgiveness. Now don’t get me wrong; this does not mean you’ll wake up one morning to a chorus of “Oh Happy Day,” smiling at the birds chirping, feeling all happy and dandy saying, “yes! yes, I have forgiven my offender, and I am finally letting go.” Truth be told, that’s more likely on a utopia than the real world. On the contrary, forgiveness and letting go is a process that takes time; it can come to fruition if the desire is evident. When you read scriptures addressing un-forgiveness, you can clearly tell that it was intended to be a tough battle we must fight vigilantly and ferociously. The battle can only be won if we fight our pride to its last stand.
As I stated in the first part of this devotion, no one can tell you when or how you should go about forgiving. Anyway who attempts to is clearly out of touch with the reality of your hurt. Un-forgiveness causes restlessness and lack of peace. There’s no greater discomfort than when we are not at peace. But as we desire to forgive just as our heavenly father Forgives us of our countless sins, He starts a restoration process, which even begins to highlight just how irrelevant the offender actually is. You finally realize that you aren’t forgiving your offender for his sake, but for the Lord. Coupled with hurt, un-forgiveness is a heavy burden to carry. It gives your offender so much power over you. Choosing to run or hide only does so much to suppress these emotions, because just like the buoyancy that causes a log to float, these feelings will always resurface. In Matthew 11:28, the scripture says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (NIV1984). If you’re struggling with past hurts and un-forgiveness for months or even years, bring it to the Lord because there is rest for the weary. To paraphrase Philippians 4:6-7, the scripture says that whatever we ask in his name through prayer and thanksgiving he can do it and provide peace that surpasses all understanding. If you desire to be free from the bondage brought by the past’s gripping hold to, submit it to the Lord consistently, so that you can finally forgive and let go to receive the sweet release of peace in the Lord. Blessings…Kefa Olang