1Kings 3:16-28, “So the king answered and said, “Give the first woman the living child, and by no means kill him; she is his mother”
Friendships can be broken over different things in life. I’ve seen some broken over relationships, positions, and gifting etc. Good friends, I mean really good friends end their friendships over things that shouldn’t, things that don’t matter.
We meet two friends who came to king Solomon for judgment. It seems as if they were in the same level, both were prostitutes living in the same house. They must have been good friends to live together. They had a lot of things in common; same occupation (if I may call it that), both gave birth to babies three days apart, both were nurturing babies dear to them, the only thing (person) they can call their own. The bible gives details of these two women who are almost equal in all things. What really keeps two good friends together is it what they have or who they are to each other.
1Kings 3:19-20, “19 And this woman’s son died in the night, because she lay on him, 20, “So she arose in the middle of the night and took my son from my side, while your maidservant slept, and laud him in her bosom, and laid her dead child in my bosom”. We now understand what brought them before the king. I see a friendship being shaken because of a problem, what was equal is not anymore, one of the babies is dead. One lay on her baby most likely by accident and now she is deceiving herself by trying to take the other friend’s baby. Trying to live someone else life.
Let’s bring this in our day to day, so many good friends started well but when one friend laid on the good (job, ministry, relationship etc.), and killed it, he or she felt it was not right for the other friend to have something they didn’t have or once had. Jealousy finds its way, opening doors to bitterness and resentments. Friends are supposed to build each other even during tough times; a true friend will not be intimidated by your success or the opposite. That is why I praise God for David and Jonathan. Jonathan was a king’s son; he knew he was next in line to be king once his father was dead. When he learnt that God had anointed David to take over instead of him, he was at peace with God’s decision. What would that mean today, Jonathan by all means would be looking for ways to get rid of David. Already Jonathan’s father King Saul was determined to kill David but Jonathan protected his friend from his father’s wrath, listen to this, 1Samuel 19:1, “Now Saul spoke to Jonathan his son and to all his servants, that they should kill David; but Jonathan… delighted in David” because he delighted in him, he warned him, spoke well of David before his father. Remember David was destined to take Jonathan’s position and we see Jonathan helping his friend David get there because he loved him, 1Samuel 20:17, “Now Jonathan again caused David to vow, because he loved him; for he loved him as he loved his own soul”. This is a friend indeed. Compared to the other two women, one is deceiving herself, here we see loyalty.
Instead of the one who lay on her child accepting the situation and dealing with it, she refused to go down by herself and took that which did not belong to her and called it her own. I have seen this with believers too, but not to this extreme. Some are bothered when God elevates others before them. Either they will talk behind their backs or accuse them of pride and even disconnect from them. How I pray that friendships will be built that glorify God. Friendships solidified, bound with codes of love that cannot be broken. Jonathan and David were friends indeed. To continue. blessings Evans