Proverbs 23:7, “As he thinks in his heart so is he…”
Nothing begins to tailors our lives life like how we think of ourselves. You will agree with me that how you perceive yourself has a way of affecting your life. I would say that what we think of about ourselves in Christ matters a lot. If you continue to see yourself defeated, sooner or later you begin develop those symptoms. What comes out your mouth is a reflection of what you have inside. Speaking defeat indicates you are harboring defeat inside. This boils down to, whose report will you believe? Either you are going to be like Joshua and Caleb who brought good report or the other 10 spies the bible does not even waste time giving us their names who brought a different report, report of defeat.
What comes out of your mouth can be build or tear, can sweeten or poison. The Shunamite woman saw her dead situation, however faith inside drove her to believe God. Because of what she believed, she pushed it out of her mouth with such great confession of faith, “All is well with my soul“. We also see the woman with the issue of blood knowing her condition still sought for healing which propelled her to push out of her faith, she said “If I may but touch the hem of his garment, I know will be made whole“. Two common things with these women, they both had evident problems but they did not allow them to define how they felt about themselves in the situation. They understood the concept of as “you think in your heart so are you” and therefore they refused to give in to defeat. I am not saying ignore and deny reality, I am saying see the reality as a means by which God will do something and make a stand on God’s promises by faith.
A part from what we think of ourselves, we have to be very careful about what we speak into others especially our kids. Parents, Proverbs 22:6, says “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it“. You call your child dumb, stupid, worthless, he will grow seeing himself that way. Parents ought to invest in their kids that regardless of what other people see and say to them, you have greater faith in God for them so you invest in them. You have the passion, the zeal to bring them up in the way God desires of you. Kids learn mostly from what they observe, and who better observe than you? Who better lay a foundation but you?
A husband abusing his wife exposes his kids and sends a message that it’s ok to abuse a spouse, that may open a door for a repetition one day. If they come from abusive physically and verbally home, they may likely do the same. Parents have to set an example by their life style and what comes out of their mouths. I fail to understand why many parents are frustrated with their kids when they sowed wrong seeds in them, Galatians 6:7, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap“. You are the role model for your kids.
Parents instead of worrying about what your kids will turn out to be when you turn them loose, plant seeds of prayers, intercede for them. Lay your hands on them, speak life into them and let them know that you are there for them. Encourage them, build confidence in them to trust God. A strong foundation laid will not be shaken by what others may say contrary to what you have invested in them. Provide discipline as a sign of love, lead them to church a place of growth and be the one who they look up to. Most kids feel their dads are the most valuable people, strong; one they want to be like when they grow up, do not take that away from them by the wrong things you do and speak over them. How do you think of yourself, what are your confessions to show what is inside of you? how does what you do or say affect the younger generation? Blessings Evans