Genesis 2:18-25, vs. 18, “And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him”
Moses in the book of Genesis gives us a clear picture of God designing marriage and defining it in such a profound way making it so clear. Adam did not even know he needed someone. He had no idea what marriage was all about. Almighty God the creator of all steps in and sees that Adam’s condition needed a helper comparable or suitable for him. Reading the first chapter and a few verses in chapter 2 leading to vs. 18, you hear the Lord concluding in every stage of what He had created to be “good”. But in vs. 18, there is a little shift when He says, “It’s NOT good…”, God did not say it’s sin to be alone, He said it’s not good. I would look at it from another angle as if the Lord was saying, “I would not conclude my work of creating man to be good until I’ve made another being out of what I’ve created suitable for him to be one and complete”
If it’s God who invented marriage, how is it that today marriages have been soiled, minimized, despised, being redefined, treated casually, viewed for convince etc.? People have wedding bliss only for it to crumble under the weight of other things a few years down the road. I’ve talked to a few people and even received emails from people saying, “please pray, my marriage is under attack and on the rocks”. If God designed marriage and joins people through ministers in holy matrimony, can He not be trusted to keep it till the end? And with what is happening, there are people who are trying to avoid marriage by all means. I was talking to a girl a while back at my sister in law’s wedding in her 20’s who despises marriage and does not want to get marriage. I talked to her for a few minutes then told her I knew the reason she did not want to get married because she is selfish, to which she agreed. Some because of what they have seen happen to their parents, their friends have left a bad taste of this thing called marriage. John Calvin says, “Many think that celibacy conduces to their advantage, and therefore, abstain from marriage, lest they should be miserable. Not only have heathen writers defined that to be a happy life which is passed without a wife. To these wicked suggestions of Satan let the faithful learn to oppose this declaration of God, by which he ordains the conjugal life for man, not to his destruction, but to his salvation”
The God who made Adam knew him and what was good for Him. Man being alone is not for his comfort; for man is a sociable creature. It is a pleasure to him to exchange knowledge and affection with those of his own kind, to inform and to be informed, to love and to be beloved. What God here says of the first man Solomon says of all men (Ecclesiastes 4:9, etc.), that two are better than one, and woe to him that is alone.
If you have a bad taste about marriage today or struggling in yours, let me begin this four part series with a few words of encouragement. Marriage is good, God Instituted, designed, defined and blessed it. It’s one of the means and the greatest means in my judgement to make His name great. I believe He created it more specifically to make us holy conforming us to the image of Christ. It’s not easy at times but God’s glory will be seen in each marriage be it good or bad. God honors marriage, it’s a true reflection of Christ the groom and the church His bride.
May God give us a eyes to start viewing marriage the way He saw that it’s not good for man to be alone, looked at it to see that it’s not a mistake, it’s divine. Blessings Ev