Exodus 20:12, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you”.
I find it fascinating how God outlined the 10 commandments, He started with commandments in relation to Him, then right after that, He gives one that relates to parent(s) and then the rest that relates to others. Right where it’s placed gives me an indication how vital it is right after Him first. On top of the commandment that relates to parent(s), He adds an element of a promise and a threat (will explain the threat part). Take a close look at the 5th commandment in Exodus 20:12, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you”.
We have a generation rebellious towards parent(s) to which extends right into rebellion towards authorities and against the law. Matthew Henry puts it this way, “a generation that is such as abusive to their parent(s), give them bad language and wish them ill, call them bad names and actually injure them. There is a generation of such; young men of that dark character commonly heard together, and irritate one another against their parent(s)“. This has kicked out the 5th commandment or has reserved it to only honoring fathers and mothers when they deserve or have earned it which is contrary to the commandment. Honor means to prize highly, to show respect to exalt. No parent will ever be good enough to deserve an honor. God has put the commandment to bypass what they don’t deserve or have earned to what He has commanded. I believe God has put it there primarily for children to honor the position rather than the person first and here is why, I believe that the moment a child honors the position of a parent, there will be no problem honoring the parent in the position. It does not matter how good or bad a parent has been or is, they still should receive the honor because God says so, period.
Part of the commandment completes with this line, “…that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you”, this is the promise; the threat I mentioned earlier is the opposite of the promise. If children will not honor, obey, respect their parent(s), their days will not be long on the face of the earth. Children will be honoring God by honoring their parent(s). Parent(s) take pride in being honored by their children. If children regardless of the age would understand the tremendous sacrifices the parent(s) have made for them to be where they are today, they would have great respect and admiration for their parent(s). The cost of raising a child is not cheap, parent(s) have put aside some of their great dreams to give their children the best life they can afford, loving them, caring for them even when children feel the parent(s) never understand or are standing on their way of happiness. I have learnt that parent(s) know their children very well. They know their strengths and their weakness. They know what to allow and what to restrain. For the older kids (for we will always be children in the eyes of our parent(s) regardless of our age), their wisdom and advise can play big part in our lives. I believe God blesses children who honor their parent(s) through respect, taking advice, their counsel, helping them in whichever way to make their lives comfortable as they get older
Listen to Jesus addressing this commandment, Matthew 15:3, “And why do you, by your traditions, violate the direct commandments of God? 4 For instance, God says, ‘Honor your father and mother,’ and ‘Anyone who speaks disrespectfully of father or mother must be put to death.’ 5 But you say it is all right for people to say to their parent(s), ‘Sorry, I can’t help you. For I have vowed to give to God what I would have given to you.’ 6 In this way, you say they don’t need to honor their parent(s). And so you cancel the word of God for the sake of your own tradition”. (NLT). The Pharisees and the teachers of the law were so concerned about traditions they made law off to the extent they could not take time to teach God’s law to their children one being honoring their parent(s).
I believe the whole of children’s duty to their parent(s) is included in honoring them, which is the spring and foundation of all the rest. Our Savior here supposes it to mean the duty of children’s maintaining their parent(s), and ministering to their needs, if there be occasion, and being every way serviceable to their comfort. No person can say they honor God they have not seen if they cannot honor the parent they can see.
Would you say you have truly honored your parent(s)?, Have you as a parent set up an example for your children by showing your honor to your parent(s)?, Blessings Ev