Genesis 24:1-67, “21 And the man, wondering at her, remained silent so as to know whether the LORD had made his journey prosperous or not”
The No. 3 Principle: This is key and crucial because everything lies on this principle and this is PRAYER. Psalm 37:23, “The good steps of a righteous man are ordered of the Lord, He delights in His way”. Abraham’s servant was on a journey, not knowing what to expect and what the Lord would do. He therefore depended on God through prayers to guide his steps, vs. 12-14, “12 Then he said, “O LORD God of my master Abraham, please give me success this day, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 Behold, here I stand by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water. 14 Now let it be that the young woman to whom I say, ‘Please let down your pitcher that I may drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink’—let her be the one You have appointed for Your servant Isaac. And by this I will know that You have shown kindness to my master.”
When I talk about prayer here, I am not talking so much about what the Lord is to give you first; I am talking about praying to the Lord to develop you, to work in your life. Praying to be develop fruit of the spirit that you should have. Galatians 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness”. To teach you honor and integrity; in short, praying to God to prepare you. There are singles out there praying that God would bless them yet they are not ready character wise, and they are frustrated with God because it is taking too long. You need to understand that blessing may be delayed because you are under construction. I praise God He did not give me a companion when I felt I needed one, He took me through years of building a strong foundation in preparation for my companion. I am not saying someone will ever be completely ready, I am talking about strong foundation. This could take a short time or a while but it is worth it. I know gifted people who love God, even anointed, who can preach, and pray like crazy but have no character, and if God gave them someone as they have prayed, they will ruin that person’s life. Angry people, people with no patience, and no credibility ruin the good. How will you desire a quality in someone else when you do not have it yourself? This is how selfishness is brooded; “it is all about me”. Relationship requires a strong foundation, a foundation where you are willing to lay down your life and die. While you are praying for your future companion with certain qualities, pray that you too will have those qualities. There are some which will be built within a marriage, there are basics that a person should have before they come into a marriage covenant.
No. 4 Principle: Be specific in your prayers and pray with your eyes opened. Pray within God given boundaries, Proverbs 10:32, “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable”. Abraham servant was specific in his prayer and if you read his prayer, he is not setting up unrealistic requests. He went by the well where women would come to draw water and while there, he prayed for a young woman, with a servant’s heart, a virtuous woman, a woman of character at the same time he was opened to whatever the Lord would do because God knows best. He already knew where he was going, these people feared God, and he just needed that fear of the Lord to be accompanied by character. An example of unrealistic prayer is something like this, “God give me 6” 2’ man who has a great job, well built, of this race etc”. Proverbs 16:1, “The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the LORD”. The Lord let us you prepare within the boundaries of His word, be opened to whichever direction He will may take you. Believe me, when He takes you, you will be at peace. If you have had selfish prayers about what you are looking for, change how you pray, and as God transforms you, you will know how best to pray for a companion. Blessings Ev
- Principles For Blessed Relationship, Part 4of4, by Evans Olang (magnifyhisword.wordpress.com)