Ephesians 5:8-10, “8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), 10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord”
I outlined three things I believe are key ingredients to a glorious marriage,1.Walking in love, 2. Walking in the light, and 3. Walking in wisdom. We looked at, “Walking in love”, to continue let me share on “Walking in the light”
Have you ever tried to find your way in your house in the dark? you walked slowly, carefully, stretching your hand to feel stuff, trying to use your mind to recall where everything is then suddenly, out of nowhere, your toes finds a piece of furniture?. Ouch!!!, deep cry, movement altered, a few words mumbled, not fun right?
To have a glorious marriage is to walk in the light, I call it, “walking in the light of the gospel”. The gospel is not just for the unbelievers only, it is for us. When you graduate, you don’t throw away things you learned that brought you to the point of graduation do you? You utilize and apply it in your life. Paul says vs. 5, “We once walked in darkness before we were redeemed,” dashing our toes’ on things of this world, wounding ourselves day by day. Not only are we now walking in the light, we are light because Christ glows in us and through us. We ought to treat our spouses as people in the light, the gospel light and not only in the presence of everyone but also in private. How many times can you recall fighting on Sunday morning or some other times and you did not feel like being nice to each other that day, you go to church fighting all the way? This hindered your worship among other things.
Read what Paul is addressing as signs of a person walking in the light of vs. “9 (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth.” How do you walk in the light before your spouse? show GOODNESS. Goodness here is moral excellence, benevolence in thought, word, and deed. Husbands looking at things online they should not, entertaining lustful thoughts are not walking in the light before God and their spouses. We as husbands need pure thoughts, looking out for God’s daughters whom He gave us to care for. We will one day give an account as to how we treated His daughters. So let us thrive to walk in the light without covering things or stone walling. If you are struggling, share with your spouse, be naked and not a shamed (be real). Part of your freedom comes from being real. Let us be thoughtful in word and deed. Give each other a reason to look forward to coming home, a place where words of encouragements, helping each with responsibilities, leaving kind notes, complimenting, laying down your lives for each other is experienced. Be a light unto the young ones who are growing up, neighbors, family members, a demonstration of a glorious marriage ordained by God.
Life of RIGHTEOUSNESS is a life of moral integrity and rightness as God sees it and in relation to man. God put you in your marriage to refine you and conform you into His image. This is a learning and stretching ground, this should drive you to honor your spouse by living a life that is pleasing to God, a life of integrity, a life of character. If you were asked to do a presentation, would you not put extra effort to work hard to bring the best? How is this not different with marriage? I have a responsibility as a husband to be the best God wants me to be, I have to work hard, learn, grow because someone’s life is in my care. Will this not drive me to live righteously?
To walk in the light is to live in TRUTH. What is truth? moral reality, honesty, sincerity, and straightforwardness, as opposed to all that is false. How many times we hear couples say they do not trust each other? Insecurities, lack of confidence. Where there is no honesty, sincerity or straightforwardness, marriage suffers. Where there is no agreement how will two walk? Living a truthful life is a challenge but it brings about freedom and unity. We can have glorious marriages when we walk in the light of goodness, righteousness and truth.
Examine yourself today, where are you? Are you walking in love and light? Pray to God, let Him show you areas you have compromised in not treating your spouse in the light of the gospel. James 5:16, “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much”. Do not let your prayers be hindered for the sake of unresolved issues. To finish, blessings Ev