Ephesians 4:32, “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you”
Sometime back someone said something he considered a joke, he said, “when a man is in a a relationship with a special woman he plans to marry, the right time comes where he proposes and places an Engagement RING in her finger. On the wedding day, they exchange vows topped with wedding RING, then right after according to many men suffeRING begins. It was funny and we laughed however later when I sat down to think about it, I wondered, is that what most men think of marriage as suffeRING?
I want to present us with a ring that will replace the so called suffeRING and that is the CaRING very necessary in a marriage. It is easy to try and show that you care for your spouse in the presence of everyone, however does it happen the same at home, in the absence of everyone, would you be the same out there as you are in your home? The amplified version says in Ephesians 4:32, “And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, …”. Three words used “USEFUL”, “HELPFUL” and “KIND”, all falling under “CaRING”. How can you show you care if you are not useful, helpful and kind? You will only be deceiving yourself. Being useful mean always ready for service and being advantageous to your spouse and not become a burden or liability in things you are capable doing. Helpful would be to render assistance or service as sign you care. Kind is you being considerate.
This is just a small encouragement to us in those little things we at times forget to do for each other to show that we care. Remember that you and your spouse are one. CaRING is having a tender heart and not rigid heart. A heart of flesh and not a heart of stone. Stony hearts bounce things off, tender hearts accommodates, absorbs, evaluates, is willing to change, willing to learn. Tender to me would also mean, a prepared heart already worked on. Out of this tender heart, forgiveness also flows. If you have a CaRING heart, even forgiving your spouse who has wronged you or you asking for forgiveness when you have wronged becomes easy.
In the light of CaRING, we can change the course and the direction of our marriages because we are not looking at it as SuffeRING as some do but CaRING as God would want us to do. Our marriages are what we make it. Today, think about the last time you gave your spouse a CaRING then start to undo what you have done and start doing what you have not done. With this CaRING, I vow to…(fill in your neccessary blank), blessings Ev