Naked And Not Ashamed, by Evans Olang

Genesis 2:25, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”

Marriage is the primary relationship and institution where in it we can most fully know the love of God. It’s a place where respect for each other’s thoughts and feelings can be instituted. I believe with all my heart that there are certain ministers whose ministries can never be complete without having a companion alongside them in their ministry. Your wife or husband is your greatest and number one ministry. If you cannot be effective in ministering to the one God has joined you to, how will you be effective outside that boundary?

So why do we have many problems in marriages today? Communication is one of the greatest developing tools in marriage. Terrified of communicating, bad communications, miscommunications, misunderstandings tends to cause problems in relationships. Most of us are afraid of revealing ourselves, showing what is truly inside our hearts and minds. I am terrible at times in communicating certain things I need to. I hate to be misunderstood or say the right thing the wrong way. Many have problem communicating because they operate on the level of assumptions about each other based on previous experiences and conversations. It’s thinking and feeling that the other person knows everything you are trying to communicate without actually doing it. Deep love responds to deep sharing, being opened and not afraid of being yourself. How we communicate will result to how it will be received. You could be saying something good and true but how communicate it matters a lot. You could be yelling and screaming trying to make a point but that would not help. Nagging and constantly pinpointing and dwelling on someone’s faults and weakness is not “building communication”. We are to build each other with our words and actions. The bible says, “A married woman’s is concerned about the affairs of this world, how she can please her husband and the bible instructs husbands to be considerate to their wives, loving them and treating them with respect for this is pleasing to the Lord” (paraphrased)

Jesus was open in His communication to mankind. He did not withhold anything that His bride needed to know. And when they crucified Him naked, He wasn’t ashamed because He was demonstrating His love towards His bride. Genesis 2:25, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”, I’m not talking about physical nakedness, I’m talking about being real, opened to the one you love without feeling ashamed. Knowing that the one you love will accept you for who you are, and love you unconditionally as you learn to communicate freely. Through genuine communication and companionship, the result from continued choices of behavior of both individuals in partnership will experience something more of what God means when He says He is with us. You can be the voice of God sometimes for your husband or wife in giving guidance and direction.

The relationship will grow, the love will flourish, and the marriage will reflect something more of the nature and the character of God to the world. It will affect you even at your place of work and how you relate to people why? because there is joy in honest communication and genuine companionship. We are choosing to live more fully through the acceptance of another person who knows us intimately simply because we are both naked and not ashamed. Blessings Ev