Proverbs 3:3, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart”
In looking at different passages in the bible, you find that “LOVE” and “FAITHFULNESS” are joined by the word “and”. “KINDNESS” and “FAITHFULNESS” also appears many times in the bible side by side, these words work together. In a relationship, there can be no faithfulness without love and love cannot continue to flourish without faithfulness. They depend on each other, without one, the other would be dead. Psalm 85:10, “Love and faithfulness meet together..” They are patterned and woven together into each other. They have kissed and bonded to become one.
I would not waste time talking about “love” because if we can master “faithfulness”, we would have mastered “love”. Let’s take the word “FAITHFULNESS” and break it into two parts, “FAITH” and “FULLNESS”. The bible defines faith “as the assurance (the confirmation) of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality [faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses (Hebrews 11:1 AMP). In a relationship, it’s taking what you see as falling and failing and believing that it’s not always bound to be the same forever therefore laboring to keep it alive and better. You don’t expect to give up on it when the going gets tough, you keep seeing something good far beyond the natural and reality. The other aspect of faith is “LOYALTY”, a choice made by an individual to keep a promise (a vow) he or she made. “FULLNESS” is to complete, to give it maximum attention it needs. Give faith a 100% with no doubt of mind and I would term that “FAITHFULNESS”.
One of the things killing marriages today is lack of faithfulness. Faithfulness is the cornerstone of a relationship. If I was to ask couples today what they would consider the most important thing in their marriage, I bet they would tell me “FAITHFULNESS”. Why not love, kindness, respect, support etc. as first? It’s because all these are centered around the word “FAITHFULNESS”. Faithfulness involves loving your partner in ways that meet his or her needs. You will love because you are faithful, you will support because you are faithful and you will be kind because you are faithful. Faithfulness implies duty. Faithfulness begins as a choice, the reason Proverbs 3:3, tells us not to “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart“. It’s the essence of a good Godly blessed marriage (relationship). We can choose to let it leave us by our words and actions. A husband or wife can feel safe knowing their spouse is faithful. Proverbs 20:28 “Love and faithfulness keep a king (queen) safe; through love his (her) throne is made secure”. Husbands are kings of their home (throne) and wives are the queens of their home (throne), their aim is to love and be faithful to each other to keep their kingdom safe and secure. If the kingdom is not safe and secure, expect intruders which leads to unfaithfulness. How many have fell on that trap because their kingdoms were not secured by love and faithfulness? Faithfulness (trustworthy) is very fragile, once broken it’s hard to mend it. The best ways you demonstrate your faithfulness today will build bridges of trust for a life time. Being trustworthy is keeping your word. Don’t let love and faithfulness leave you if you want your marriage (relationship) to grow and flourish. Write it on the table of your heart and remind yourself everyday to keep them. Blessings Evans